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Taken from Hilal Ibn Al-Ala from the book ''THE BEGINNING OF GUIDANCE'' Written by Imam Ghazali (r.a)
'' When I forgave and bore no rancour to anyone,
I gave rest to myself from anxiety about enemies.
I greet my enemy when I see him,
That I may expel evil by greetings.
I express cheerfulness to a man I hate
as if he has done many delightful things for me. ''
Imam Ghazali (ra) said
'' There is another thing which will keep you from backbiting fellow Muslims, namely, you should examine yourself to see whether there is any open or hidden vice in you and whether you are committing any sins, secretly or publicly.
If you find that this is so in your own case, you may be sure that the other man's inability to free himself from what you attribute to him is similar to your liability, and his excuse is similar to you excuse.
Just as you dont like to be openly criticized and having your vices mention, so does he.
If you veil him, GOD will veil your faults for you.
If you criticize him openly, God will give sharp tongues of power over you to impair your reputation in this world and in the world to come, and God will criticize you before all creatures on the Day of resurrection. ''